Monday, December 10, 2007

Evelyn McHugh 1915 - 2007

My mother died peacefully yesterday afternoon.

She was 92--born in 1915 in a hollow in Kentucky, she had a memory of the Spanish Influenza epidemic of 1918--her father brought the entire family through with vegetable soup. She remembered the introduction of cars to her small town in Kentucky. She rode the back of a plow horse to school with her older brother and little sister. She was born in a time where airplanes of were exotic, but traveled to Paris, London, Switzerland, Brazil, Egypt, the Caribbean and China. She had a brother and brother-in-law both serve in the Pacific theater in World War Two.

She had first showed signs of dementia when she was 77 but was still pretty healthy until she broke her hip this fall. On Friday, Hospice was brought in because her dementia had progressed to the point where she no longer spoke nor ate. This week Bob and I will be going to Kentucky for the service where she will be buried in a tiny family cemetery on top of a mountain in Swan Pond.

I have missed her for many years. I am glad that at the end she could be made comfortable and unafraid.

31 Comments:

Blogger Tim Pratt said...

I'm so sorry, Maureen. Condolences.

December 10, 2007 2:03 PM  
Blogger Rose Fox said...

My best wishes to you and your family. May you be comforted.

December 10, 2007 2:27 PM  
Blogger Fred said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

December 10, 2007 3:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Maureen,
I'm sorry to hear this. Much love flying your way.
Ellen (D)

December 10, 2007 3:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Maureen. As you say, though, comfortable and unafraid is heartening.

Remember to take time to take care of yourself. Thinking of you.

December 10, 2007 3:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very sorry to hear this, and condolences to your family.

At least the ending was peaceful.

--wjw

December 10, 2007 4:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sorry for your loss. Comfortable and unafraid sounds like a better way to go. Small mercies are all one can hope for at times.

December 10, 2007 5:20 PM  
Blogger Responsible Artist said...

My sympathies, Maureen.
I can't think of anything to say except I'm thinking of you and wishing you strength in the next week and beyond.

Leslie

December 10, 2007 5:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Our condolences, Maureen -- Meg and I are thinking about you and your family. If there's anything we can do, being in town and all, please let us know.

December 10, 2007 6:19 PM  
Blogger Splinister said...

Dear Maureen,

My condolences on the loss of your mother. I'll be thinking of you and your family at this time.

Much love,

Maura

December 10, 2007 6:50 PM  
Blogger Dave said...

My condolences, Maureen.

December 10, 2007 8:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My condolences as well.

--Trey

December 10, 2007 10:06 PM  
Blogger Therem said...

Oh, what sad news. Deepest sympathies, Maureen.

December 10, 2007 10:14 PM  
Blogger gordsellar said...

Maureen, I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and the rest of your family.

December 11, 2007 12:15 AM  
Blogger Caroline M. Yoachim said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Maureen. Condolences to you and your family.

December 11, 2007 12:40 AM  
Blogger Greg van Eekhout said...

I'm so sorry, Maureen. Please take care.

December 11, 2007 2:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maureen -- Our condolences to you and your family.

December 11, 2007 7:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maureen, I'm so sorry. I'm glad she shared her memories with you back when she was able. They will be a treasure in the years to come.

K.D. Wentworth

December 11, 2007 9:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maureen, I'm so sorry. Wishing you well--

December 11, 2007 10:24 AM  
Blogger Madeleine Robins said...

I'm sorry, Maureen. It's a mixed loss-blessing; she hadn't been fully herself for a long time, but that little bit that was still there is hard to lose. I'm thinking of you.

December 11, 2007 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Such sad news Maureen. My best wishes and condolences to you all. I'll be around if you're interested in a cup of tea or two.
Anon

December 11, 2007 10:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hugs across the eways. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Paula Helm Murray (not iced in in KC...)

December 11, 2007 10:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May she rest in peace. All comfort to you Maureen.

Stuart

December 12, 2007 5:40 AM  
Blogger Amy said...

Am just catching up now. Don't forget you're an excellent daughter. Please take a photo of Swan Pond. My mother has been gone 21 years, but I still reach out to call her sometimes. Love to you.

December 12, 2007 4:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maureen,

Just found out the email I sent earlier bounced back. I am so sorry to hear about your mom. Like we talked about before, you were (and still are) an amazing daughter to your mom. You took very good care of her throughout all the difficult years. I will always remember her as the vibrant, strong woman who didn't blink an eye at having half a dozen college students rain down on her home for a weekend (or two). Or your stories of the many travels you did together. Remember those times and smile. You know I just went through the loss of my dad myself recently so I know . . .

Take care,

Donna

December 13, 2007 11:49 AM  
Blogger Karen Sandstrom said...

Your mother sounds like she had an interesting life. Not least among her accomplishments was bringing up a very cool person for a daughter. Be well, and hugs.

December 13, 2007 8:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Condolences, Maureen. I can't think what else to say. She sounds like an amazing lady, and I know a lot of her memories, imagination, and high ideals live on in you.

December 14, 2007 2:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry, Maureen. I know that having a parent with dementia means you get to watch them die twice.

December 14, 2007 10:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That last was me, experiencing some pre-dementia loss of Blogger skills.

Eileen Gunn

December 14, 2007 10:57 PM  
Blogger Derryl Murphy said...

I haven't dropped by in some time. I'm so sorry, Maureen. A long and remarkable life, not that that makes the loss any easier.

D

December 16, 2007 12:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maureen,

We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. We are thinking special thoughts for you and your family.

Marjorie and Walt Farrell

December 16, 2007 8:35 AM  

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