Why Women Talk
"Talking releases a rush of dopamine and oxycotin (the 'reward' and 'bonding' neurochemicals) in a woman's brain," explains Louann Brisendine, M.D., author of The Female Brain and a neuropsychiatrist at the University of California at San Francisco. "It's the biggest neurological reward a woman can get besides an orgasm." First of all, this chemical reaction explains a great deal about women. Second, it gives you a powerful tool: A simple "I can't wait to see you tonight" is enough to distract her from the insanity of the day and reinforce the love circuits in her brain.
I suspect that like a lot of gender science, this one is on shaky ground. But it does explain a lot.
(From Wife Support. A web article of dubious authority.)
posted by Maureen McHugh at 9:54 AM
2 Comments:
funny enough, meg just sent me an e-mail from work that said, "can't wait to see you later on tonight."
But anyways, this reminds me of one of my favorite vonnegut passages:
"Freud said he didn't know what women wanted. I know what women want. They want a whole lot of people to talk to. What do they want to talk about? They want to talk about everything.
What do men want? They want a lot of pals, and they wish people wouldn't get so mad at them.
Why are so many people getting divorced today? It's because most of us don't have extended families anymore. I used to be that when a man and a woman got married, the bride got a lot more people to talk to about everything. The groom got a lot more people to tell dumb jokes to.
A few Americans, but very few, still have extended families. The Navahos. The Kennedys.
But most of us, if we get married nowadays, are just one more person for the other person. The groom gets one more pal, but it's a woman. The woman gets one more person to talk to about everything, but it's a man.
When a couple has an argument, they may think it's about money or power or sex, or how to raise the kids, or whatever. What they're really saying to each other, though, without realizing it, is this:
"You are not enough people!"
Only Vonnegut could put the Navahos and the Kennedys together. That's great.
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